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Perkongsian ilmu dan pengalaman hidup yang begitu mengesankan!!!
Salam perjuangan..Salam Ramadhan Karim..
BERTUAH SUNGGUH DAPAT SUAMI MCM NIE...
Lebih kurang tiga minggu yang lepas saya membawa
isteri ke 'Mahkota Medical Centre', dia mengadu
kepada saya kepalanya pening, rasa mual dan badanya
lenguh-lenguh. Saya tanya dia"mengandung kot?" Dia
kata tak ada. Oleh kerana 2-3 hari macam tu saja,saya
bawak dia jumpa doktor dan ternyata.... isteri saya
mengandung dua bulan. Emmm saya dah agak dah.Maka
bermulalah cerita baru dan haluan sejarah masa
depan akan pastinya berubah lagi.
Dia akan merasa loya dengan bau yang sebelum ini
senang baginya, termasuklah bau badan saya. Morning
sickness yang teruk sekali bagi isteri
saya.Kasihan sungguh, terbaring saja sepanjang masa.
Makan tak boleh, minum tak nak, apa pun tak nak.
Adakalanya isteri saya semalaman tak dapat tidur,
kadang-kadang tu asyik nak tidur saja. Selesai saja
solat Isyak dah masuk bilik. Pada awalnya saya tidur
kat luarlah sebab dia tak boleh bau badan saya.
Saya fahamlah orang mengandung memang macam tu,
sekarang ni dah boleh tidur dengan saya dan saya
sudah tahu macamana nak elakan insomnia yang
dialaminya, iaitu dengan membaca Al-Quran
sehingga isteri saya terlelap.Memang kebiasaan
sebelum mengandung pun saya akan membaca
Al-Quran diatas katil di sisi isteri sebelum tidur
sehinggalah dia terlelap.
Lebih kurang tiga minggu yang lepas saya membawa
isteri ke 'Mahkota Medical Centre', dia mengadu
kepada saya kepalanya pening, rasa mual dan badanya
lenguh-lenguh. Saya tanya dia"mengandung kot?" Dia
kata tak ada. Oleh kerana 2-3 hari macam tu saja,saya
bawak dia jumpa doktor dan ternyata.... isteri saya
mengandung dua bulan. Emmm saya dah agak dah.Maka
bermulalah cerita baru dan haluan sejarah masa
depan akan pastinya berubah lagi.
Dia akan merasa loya dengan bau yang sebelum ini
senang baginya, termasuklah bau badan saya. Morning
sickness yang teruk sekali bagi isteri
saya.Kasihan sungguh, terbaring saja sepanjang masa.
Makan tak boleh, minum tak nak, apa pun tak nak.
Adakalanya isteri saya semalaman tak dapat tidur,
kadang-kadang tu asyik nak tidur saja. Selesai saja
solat Isyak dah masuk bilik. Pada awalnya saya tidur
kat luarlah sebab dia tak boleh bau badan saya.
Saya fahamlah orang mengandung memang macam tu,
sekarang ni dah boleh tidur dengan saya dan saya
sudah tahu macamana nak elakan insomnia yang
dialaminya, iaitu dengan membaca Al-Quran
sehingga isteri saya terlelap.Memang kebiasaan
sebelum mengandung pun saya akan membaca
Al-Quran diatas katil di sisi isteri sebelum tidur
sehinggalah dia terlelap.
Sekarang saya terus membaca Al Quran disisinya
sebagai ubat tidur bagi isteri dan anak dalam
kandungan. Adakalanya sampai 2-3 jam.Bukan itu
sahaja, saya juga sentiasa bercakap-cakap dengan
janin dalam perutnya. Perkara yang mula-mula saya
ceritakan padanya ialah tentang tauhid. Saya bermula
dengan
kitab pertama yang saya pelajari dahulu iaitu kitab
'Kasyaful Mahjub'. Mungkin ada pembaca yang berkata
saya terlalu ghairah, kebarangkalian untuk janin
survive masih tipis. Tapi mana ada ayah yang tak
berharapan. Segarang-garang harimau pun tak makan
anak, apatah lagi saya. Apa yang akan berlaku pada
kemudian hari adalah diluar bidang kuasa
saya. Siapa saya untuk mempersoalkanya.
Saya bercerita kepadanya tentang Allah,
zat, sifat, asma, afal. Dan cerita itu kembali
bercerita kepada diri saya. Adayang menghantar
email dan bertanya bagaimana mahu mensihati anak agar
tidak degil. Jawapan yang mahu saya nyatakan bukan hanya
untuk anak tetapi untuk sesiapa sahaja terutamanya
yang mempunyai hubungan rapat dengan kita.Tak
kiralah anak, isteri atau suami. Bagaimana?
1. Semasa anak atau isteri kita sedang tidur inilah
waktu yang paling sesuai terutamanya diwaktu dua
pertiga malam, kerana fikiran bawah sedarnya(sub
conscius mind) adalah paling optimum ketika
ini. Yang tidur hanyalah conscius mind (minda sedar).
2.Sentuhkan ibu jari anda ke langit-langit dan
kemudian sentuhlah dengan halus ibu jari anda ke
ubun - ubun orang yang ingin anda nasihati.
3. Semasa ibu jari diatas ubun-ubun selawatlah
ke atas junjungan Nabi Muhamad dan bacalah surah al
fatihah. Kemudian terus dengan berzikir didalam
hati dan jangan putuskan zikir anda.
4. Angkat ibu jari anda,kalau boleh janganlah
di putuskan zikir didalam hati dan bercakaplah
dengan suara yang agak perlahan agar tidak sampai
mengejutkanya. Beritahulah apa yang ingin anda
beritahunya. Kebiasaannya saya akan menasihati
isteri saya agar tidak selalu melewatkan solat,banyakkan
berselawat, banyak bersabar.
Nasihatilah orang yang anda sayangi dengan apa
sahaja nasihat yang anda inginkan. Jangan putuskan zikir
anda, supaya zikir itu masuk bersama dengan nasihat
anda
5. Anda akan dapat melihat reaksi yang dia sedang
menerima pernyataan anda iaitu kelopak matanya
bergerak-gerak. Insyallah saya doakan diri saya dan
anda berjaya dengan kaedah ini.
Pernah di zaman Imam Abu Hanifah (Hanafi An
Nu'man), seseorang pernah bertanya kepada bapa
Imam Abu Hanifah. "Tuan, bagaimanakah tuan mendidik
Hanafi
sehingga begini istimewa jadinya. Jawab bapa Imam
Abu Hanifah "Aku didik Hanafi 40 tahun sebelum dia
dilahirkan". Kalau didengar pernyataan ini tentu
aneh bagi kita bukan. Bagaimana mungkin manusia yang
belum dilahirkan sudah di didik. Namun apa yang ingin
disampaikan oleh Tsabit (bapa Imam Abu Hanifah)
ialah dia sendiri telah diasuh, manakala isterinya juga
sudah di didik dan Hanafi sendiri sudah dididik sejak
dari kandungan lagi. Saya beri anda satu logik
akal, acuan yang bulat mana mungkin menghasilkan kuih
segiempat. Begitu juga dengan anak dan isteri
kita. Mereka adalah cermin kepada diri kita
sendiri.
Saya bacakan kisah ini kepada janin yang sedang
membesar dalam perut isteri saya. Saya sentiasa
berdoa agar dia terus membesar dan dilindungi Allah
sebagaimana Allah memelihara Imam Abu Hanifah. Saya
nasihatkan dia dengan nasihat yang disuarakan oleh
Luqman Al Hakim kepada anaknya. Saya bacakan kisah
para rasul, para nabi,wali songo, tujuh wali melayu
kepadanya. Cuma isteri saya menasihati agar suara
saya tidak terlalu kuat, bimbang didengar oleh jiran, apa
pula kata mereka nanti.
Dalam kepekatan malam, isteri saya sudah pun yenyak
dibuai mimpi. Saya baru selesai membaca surah yasin
disisi isteri hingga dia terlelap. Saya kehalaman
rumah, mahu merenung langit malam, satu-satunya hobi
saya semenjak kecil semenjak di rumah anak-anak
yatim piatu, saya bawa hingga kini. Langit agak terang
dan
bersih. Saya bersandar dibangku marmar. Kalau isteri
saya sihat pastinya dia menemani saya disini, kami
akan bercerita tentang segala-galanya, tentang masa
depan, tentang anak, tentang cinta, tentang tuhan.
Saya terus merenung langit malam, saya anak yatim
piatu yang ditinggalkan ditengah padangrumput,sehingga
sekarang tidak diketahui siapa ibu ayah saya. Kini
saya akan menjadi ayah. Bermula dari saya akan wujud
salasilah keturunan yang baru.Saya bertekad dalam
hati, Insyallah jika anak ini lahir, dia tidak akan
saya biarkan membesar seperti saya. Dia tidak akan saya
biarkan menagih kasih dirumah kebajikan.Dia tidak
akan melalui zaman pahit seperti saya. Dia tidak perlu
dibohongi yang teddy bear adalah'mama'nya seperti
saya. Air mata ini mengalir lagi. Mudah benar ia
tumpah.Oh! janganlah tumpah lagi.Sudah terlalu
banyak tertumpah.Kalau mahu tumpah biarlah ketika sujud
menyembah ilahi.Pesan guruku air mata lelaki
jangan ditumpahkan sia-sia.
Saya tidak mahu terus melayan perasaan,segera saya
kuncikan pintu dan ke kamar tidur.Isteri saya
telah pun nyenyak dibuai mimpi.Inilah 'bintang timur'
dalam hidup saya.Ia sentiasa bersinar cemerlang dalam
hidup saya,memberi harapan,keyakinan,kesetiaan dan
cintanya kepada saya.Insyallah tidak lama lagi,akan
muncu 'bintang timur kecil' dalam hidup saya
Let's start our Ramadhan Karim guilt free..!!!
Assalamualaiku..Ramadhan Karim..
Tengahari semalam ke Melaka hantar anakanda Mahfudzah balik UeTM kemudian terus ke KL hajat nak ambil Motor di Bangi untuk Mahfudzah guna, terus ke Batu Muda bersama Babah , Maya dan Mujahid..Babah pula di serang maigraine..Alhamdulillah Allah Atur yang terbaik..mcm2 planned yang terjadi berbuka di Greenwood bersama Musab dan Dayah..tersentuh dengan keletah Mujahid berbuka..almaklum masih berlatih puasa..
Selepas berbuka tumpang solat di rumah Lina..selepas tu terus ke Bangi hantar pesanan mak di rumah abang Mat..kemudian terus balik ke Muar tanpa Motor Mahfudzah sebab x larat..sampai Muar jam 12.30 malam..masing2 terus tido jam 3.30 baru bangun untuk Terawih dan tahajjud..Alhamdulillah..Sebelum tidur sempat gak masak nasi dan masak sardin lemak cili api...
Alhamdulillah sahur jam 5.15 pagi..tergelak masing2 tengok Mujahid yang begitu bersemangat bersahur..
Alhamdulillah syukur pagi ni dapat email yang sangat2 menarik untuk di kongsi bersama..
baru nak mula posting Muadz call beritahu dia accident sebelum sahur pagi tadi..Alhamdulillah x de cedera cuma sakit2 tengkok..kawannya bersimen tangan..motor yang teruk..elak kereta langgar divider..pasti ada hikmah dan pengajaran besar disebalik kemalangan ini...Ya rabb kami terima semua ini dgn iklas dan pasrahkan ketentuan dan penyelesaiannya pada MU ....
Jom baca email ini hingga tamat semoga dapat pengajaran dan ilmu yang bermanafaat..
From: Mercy Mission World <director@mercymissionworld.org.uk>
Date: Thu, Aug 12, 2010 at 1:24 AM
Subject: Start your Ramadan guilt free! [Message from Dr Tawfique Chowdhury]
To: mkderwish@gmail.com
<http://click.icptrack.com/icp/relay.php?r=16603679&msgid=249902&act=L1YR&c=606009&destination=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.mercymissionworld.org>
As-salâmu 'alaikum wa rahmatullâhi wa barakâtuhu
My dear friends, students, patrons, supporters, brothers and sisters in
faith.
My deepest love and respects to you and your beloved ones on the advent of
Ramadan. Like the other 1.5 billion Muslims on this earth, I am sure we
cannot wait to start fasting daily and enjoying the blessings of prayer and
the Quran in this month. Many positive feelings overtake us this month:
excitement, happiness, anticipation of blessings and reward, joy upon
meeting family and friends regularly and the delight of amazing delicacies
on the iftar table!
However for many of us, it is the negative emotions that predominate at the
start of this month: fear of yet another unsuccessful Ramadan, apprehension
and guilt. We start this month of Ramadan feeling guilty for being away from
Allah for so long; for not having read the Quran this year until now; of not
having prayed any tahajjud prayer until now; of not having fasting
throughout the year - except for now. This guilty feeling leads to a lot of
negativity in our approach to this month and perhaps to the lack of optimism
in retrying those special attempts we had made before to read the whole
Quran or to pray taraweeh and tahajjud every night or some other good deed
in Ramadan. In fact for so many of us, guilt takes us away from Allah and
makes us feel inferior and sometimes cripples us to lesser levels of
aspiration and success. "What can this poor slave of Allah achieve anyway,
when he is so engrossed in sins having done so many evil deeds?" For many -
the thought of what we have done in the past - cripples us to what we can do
in the future.
However, I would like to ask you all to approach this Ramadan guilt free!
Free of guilt of the past. Why worry about something you can't change? It is
not the past that should worry us or bother us, rather what could happen in
the future. The past is the past - we can't change the sins we have done in
the past - so to constantly focus on that for the vast majority of us - is
far more crippling for the future than anything else. The prophetic guidance
is to regret the past sins and missed opportunities, whilst fearing the
future possible sins and being weary of missing future opportunities.
It is as Ibnul-Qayyium said in AnNooniyyah: "By Allah, I don't fear my past
sins, since I have sincerely repented to Allah and Allah loves to
forgive.However, what I truly fear is that in the future this heart of mine
will cease to rule by this Quran and this revelation."
Remember that Allah is AlWadud - the loving God - He is the one who loves
you more than your own parents! Have you not heard how Sufyan atThawri said:
"I would rather that Allah judges me on the Day of Judgement rather than my
own parents, for indeed I know that Allah loves me more than my own
parents!" [Reported in Hilyatul-Awliyaa] So overpowering is Allah's mercy
that it has transcended His anger. So wide is His Mercy that the Prophet
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said: "If the disbeliever knew of the extent of
the Mercy of Allah, then none would have despaired of entering His
Paradise!" [Reported by Muslim] And plus, what past sins, when your sincere
repentance with Allah's Mercy would have wiped it away and replaced it with
equivalent good deeds: "Except those who repent, believe and do righteous
deeds - they are the ones who Allah will turn their bad deeds into good
deeds. And indeed Allah is most Forgiving most Merciful." [AlFurqan 25:70]
My friends, how do you dare to think that Allah does not love you when He
says so clearly in the Quran: "Allah has not forgotten you, nor does he hate
you!" [AdDuha 93:3] If He hated you, why did He keep you alive till another
Ramadan? If He hated you, why does he provide for you even when you disobey
Him? If He did not love you, why is He allowing you to taste the sweetness
of loving Him this month by fasting and praying? If He didn't love you, why
did He keep you upon Islam?
So come back to AlWadud - your loving Lord - the one who loves you more than
anything else. He is waiting for you and is more happy with you remembering
Him than you can imagine. If you come to Him today, He will rush to you. If
you remember Him, He will remember you. If you talk about Him, He will talk
about you to those with Him. If you say sorry O Allah, He will forgive you
and turn them into good.
So start your Ramadan guilt free and enjoy a month of renewed emaan and
focus on the good that you can do this month. Learn from the past, but focus
on the future! It is truly as the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said:
"Verily actions are judged by their endings."
With all my love and prayer for your success in this month
Date: Thu, Aug 12, 2010 at 1:24 AM
Subject: Start your Ramadan guilt free! [Message from Dr Tawfique Chowdhury]
To: mkderwish@gmail.com
<http://click.icptrack.com/icp/relay.php?r=16603679&msgid=249902&act=L1YR&c=606009&destination=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.mercymissionworld.org>
As-salâmu 'alaikum wa rahmatullâhi wa barakâtuhu
My dear friends, students, patrons, supporters, brothers and sisters in
faith.
My deepest love and respects to you and your beloved ones on the advent of
Ramadan. Like the other 1.5 billion Muslims on this earth, I am sure we
cannot wait to start fasting daily and enjoying the blessings of prayer and
the Quran in this month. Many positive feelings overtake us this month:
excitement, happiness, anticipation of blessings and reward, joy upon
meeting family and friends regularly and the delight of amazing delicacies
on the iftar table!
However for many of us, it is the negative emotions that predominate at the
start of this month: fear of yet another unsuccessful Ramadan, apprehension
and guilt. We start this month of Ramadan feeling guilty for being away from
Allah for so long; for not having read the Quran this year until now; of not
having prayed any tahajjud prayer until now; of not having fasting
throughout the year - except for now. This guilty feeling leads to a lot of
negativity in our approach to this month and perhaps to the lack of optimism
in retrying those special attempts we had made before to read the whole
Quran or to pray taraweeh and tahajjud every night or some other good deed
in Ramadan. In fact for so many of us, guilt takes us away from Allah and
makes us feel inferior and sometimes cripples us to lesser levels of
aspiration and success. "What can this poor slave of Allah achieve anyway,
when he is so engrossed in sins having done so many evil deeds?" For many -
the thought of what we have done in the past - cripples us to what we can do
in the future.
However, I would like to ask you all to approach this Ramadan guilt free!
Free of guilt of the past. Why worry about something you can't change? It is
not the past that should worry us or bother us, rather what could happen in
the future. The past is the past - we can't change the sins we have done in
the past - so to constantly focus on that for the vast majority of us - is
far more crippling for the future than anything else. The prophetic guidance
is to regret the past sins and missed opportunities, whilst fearing the
future possible sins and being weary of missing future opportunities.
It is as Ibnul-Qayyium said in AnNooniyyah: "By Allah, I don't fear my past
sins, since I have sincerely repented to Allah and Allah loves to
forgive.However, what I truly fear is that in the future this heart of mine
will cease to rule by this Quran and this revelation."
Remember that Allah is AlWadud - the loving God - He is the one who loves
you more than your own parents! Have you not heard how Sufyan atThawri said:
"I would rather that Allah judges me on the Day of Judgement rather than my
own parents, for indeed I know that Allah loves me more than my own
parents!" [Reported in Hilyatul-Awliyaa] So overpowering is Allah's mercy
that it has transcended His anger. So wide is His Mercy that the Prophet
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said: "If the disbeliever knew of the extent of
the Mercy of Allah, then none would have despaired of entering His
Paradise!" [Reported by Muslim] And plus, what past sins, when your sincere
repentance with Allah's Mercy would have wiped it away and replaced it with
equivalent good deeds: "Except those who repent, believe and do righteous
deeds - they are the ones who Allah will turn their bad deeds into good
deeds. And indeed Allah is most Forgiving most Merciful." [AlFurqan 25:70]
My friends, how do you dare to think that Allah does not love you when He
says so clearly in the Quran: "Allah has not forgotten you, nor does he hate
you!" [AdDuha 93:3] If He hated you, why did He keep you alive till another
Ramadan? If He hated you, why does he provide for you even when you disobey
Him? If He did not love you, why is He allowing you to taste the sweetness
of loving Him this month by fasting and praying? If He didn't love you, why
did He keep you upon Islam?
So come back to AlWadud - your loving Lord - the one who loves you more than
anything else. He is waiting for you and is more happy with you remembering
Him than you can imagine. If you come to Him today, He will rush to you. If
you remember Him, He will remember you. If you talk about Him, He will talk
about you to those with Him. If you say sorry O Allah, He will forgive you
and turn them into good.
So start your Ramadan guilt free and enjoy a month of renewed emaan and
focus on the good that you can do this month. Learn from the past, but focus
on the future! It is truly as the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said:
"Verily actions are judged by their endings."
With all my love and prayer for your success in this month
PS Please forward to your friends and family
Your brother,
*Dr. Tawfique Chowdhury
Director General
Mercy Mission World*
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